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Delia and Daniel have a picture-perfect life. They like their jobs. They love their house. Everything is coming up roses . . . but in private, they’d rather have the thorns. Their recent forays into kink have brought them closer than ever, but there’s still something missing, and they can’t quite work it out.
Mara knows what she’s missing: a significant other. She tried vanilla, and it was a total bust. But when she and her last girlfriend took things out of the kink club and into the “real” world, they fizzled. Even their friendship is on the rocks now. Mara feels like a lost stray, looking for a forever home.
When the three of them meet up at the brand-new club Escape, their connection is instant. And surprising—none of them were expecting more than a few hot nights. But now they might be ready to bring their kinky threesome into the light of day and build a life together.
Publisher's note: This title is a heavily revised re-issue of a prior story, Roses and Chains, originally released in 2011.
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Hi! I’m Delphine Dryden, touring the internet to talk about my latest book, The Unicorn. It’s a geeky, kinky M/F/F romp, it’s part of Riptide’s “Escape” universe, and it’s a much-expanded version of an earlier story called Roses and Chains. Thanks so much to all the blogs hosting the tour! Be sure to comment on tour posts for a chance to win a $10 Amazon gift certificate and your choice of two books from my backlist.
Top 5 Reasons I Almost Didn’t Write... [Fill in Book Title Here]
I’m writing this post about my latest release, The Unicorn...but it could apply just as easily to any book I’ve ever written. Sometimes the order is a little different (often the depression/anxiety parts shoots to #1 with a bullet). But generally these are the reasons I don’t get writing done...and I don’t see this changing any time soon! Writers, you’ll recognize these. Aspiring writers, take heed. Readers, have all the sympathy you can muster!
5) Other People:
I could also call this one “how I interact with others as a writer.” When I started out in this field in 2008 or so, I was still working full time for a school district, writing a few thousand words here and there late at night. It was very much a sideline, and I was as surprised as the next person when I got published almost right away. And even by a few years later when I quit the school job to do writing/creative field stuff full time, I tended to still think of it as a hobby, not my actual job. I am still bad at setting limits and treating my writing career as my Actual Job ™. If people ask me to do something—or even just want to interact in person or online—I have trouble saying, “I can’t right now because I’m writing.” But I’m getting better at this, so it’s down to number five. I call that a win!
4) Other Books
Other books are distracting as heck. Reading them is entertaining (I am a narrative junkie, see item #1); it can also feel like working on craft, if I’m taking enough notice of the structure to sense that I’m learning about the writing process as I’m reading. Reading in one’s genre is also essential, we all know that (I don’t actually read much in my own sub-genre; I tend to read historicals and the occasional contemporary that isn’t erotic romance). So it’s easy to rationalize reading when I ought to be writing. Plus my TBR is...too many books to be believed, really. It’s some large number that the human mind has difficulty conceptualizing.
3) Depression with an Anxiety Chaser
Like I said, sometimes this becomes THE BIG ONE and I can’t write at all. But in all cases, even when I’m doing well and my medication is working optimally and I’m not actively experiencing anxiety/panic symptoms...my brain is weird. I have to set up systems to get things done, and sometimes I’ll circumvent my own systems to avoid the work anyway. I trick myself and don’t even realize it until it’s too late. I enjoy writing, and my other main job which is editing...but if I put my tasks for those jobs on a to-do list it generates just enough anxiety for me to become avoidant toward it, so I often procrastinate until it’s near-late or late and I have to do the work in last-second panic mode. I do a lot of my best writing in that mode, I won’t lie about that—but it’s hardly a healthy process or one I recommend.
2) The Day Job
Balance, balance, balance. A few months ago I realized that my mindset about writing (see #1) was really coming into play because I was doing enough freelance editing that I’d started to call that my “day job.” And to think of it that way, and prioritize that over writing. For awhile, when I was on a writing hiatus, that made sense. But once I got back on the writing horse, I had to re-prioritize. Again. And I’m still looking for a balance where I can get all the editing work done and still have time and brainpower enough left to write and edit my own stuff. For now, though, I tend to throw over writing for editing... and I think that’s how it is for a lot of us who aren’t full-time writers, we put the writing last on the priority list.
1) Binge-watching everything.
So...my name is Del and I am a binge-watch-aholic. If I were a stronger person I would delete my Hulu and Netflix accounts and actually just work offline most of the day. But MAN, y’all, I just cannot resist a juicy new-to-me series of, say, horrible reality TV with no redeeming social value (why can’t I quit you, Dance Moms)? Or something like Archer, which I just marathoned for the second time because a friend wanted to co-watch (she’d never seen it. Now we’re done with that and I’ve convinced her we need to watch Hannibal next). What sucks me in, every time, is the narrative. In some ways, this is especially true in reality TV, because I love seeing the way the show uses editing to make the events—no matter what they are—fit a narrative framework. Real life doesn’t usually have a dramatic arc...but every episode of reality TV has one, whether it’s something built in artificially (elimination shows) or manipulated into being after the fact (shows about “real people”). I particularly love watching with somebody else who has this same meta-awareness, so we can speculate that, for instance, a particular Top Model is probably done for because she seems to be getting “the elimination edit.” And again, I can (almost) fool myself into thinking this is useful craft learning.
What’s your distraction? What keeps you from doing the stuff you know you’re supposed to be doing?
More about the author:
Delphine Dryden probably should have gone ahead and become an English professor like she planned. Instead, she took a detour through law school, another detour through the wonderful world of working in special education, and took an extra fifteen years to end up where she belonged: writing kinky romances.
Del's writing has earned an Award of Excellence and Reviewers’ Choice Award from Romantic Times Book Reviews, an EPIC Award, and a Colorado Romance Writers’ Award of Excellence. When not writing or editing, she can be found binge-watching television shows, playing tabletop games, and tweeting to excess.
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